10 Commandments for a Woman’s Happiness

These are 10 com­mand­ments cre­ated by Yuliya Sviyash, a pop­u­lar writer and women’s psy­chol­o­gist from Rus­sia.  The author’s web-site is www.swoman.ru Trans­la­tion is by Katya @  siwakinti.com

 

1. A True Woman does not chase her hap­pi­ness. A True Woman does not chase any­thing for that mat­ter. Pur­suit of hap­pi­ness is the most pop­u­lar and the most silly sport nowa­days. A True Woman is not run­ning any­where — towards her bright future, into tomor­row, into the next year. She nav­i­gates through life always remain­ing in the present day. The present day is the most impor­tant and the most inter­est­ing thing for her. One day is one small life.  A True Woman does have plans for the future, but she lives in the present, she doesn’t put off her life till tomor­row. She doesn’t wait for the right moment when her “real” life starts… (when she loses weight, when she meets Prince Charm­ing, when some ideal cir­cum­stances will hap­pen, etc.).

2. To be a True Woman is a big priv­i­lege. Allow your­self to claim this priv­i­lege. Only you can do it.  The True Woman is in awe of her fem­i­nin­ity. She sees tremen­dous value in the fact that she was born a woman. To be a woman is not a bur­den, nor it is a work­out. It is a bless­ing. The True Woman cul­ti­vates her fem­i­nin­ity on all lev­els: inter­nally (feel­ings, sen­sa­tions, emo­tions) and exter­nally (her body, cloth­ing and social interaction)

3. A True Woman lives at her own pace. Every one of us has her own nat­ural rhythm of life. The rhythm of the big cities is too fast for her. She knows her own inter­nal speed of life and she can set her whole life in accor­dance with it.

4. The most impor­tant per­son in a True Woman’s life is her­self. She knows very well that it doesn’t mean being ego­is­ti­cal, cyn­i­cal or hard-hearted. She just knows that under­neath exces­sive desire to busy one­self with lives of oth­ers there is a fear of liv­ing one’s own life. A True Woman focuses on HER OWN life. But she is capa­ble of sup­port­ing oth­ers and being part of their life as well. She does it because such is her sin­cere desire — not because she is afraid of dis­ap­point­ing oth­ers. She can say “NO”, if her heart says “NO”. She always lis­tens to her­self and she trusts her feelings.

5. A True Woman doesn’t care about what oth­ers think about her. Every woman was given a “public-opinion-record-book” when she was a lit­tle girl. This “book” was meant to be used with par­ents, teach­ers, neigh­bors, friends and col­leagues. Many women devote their entire life to pass­ing “exams” in order to fill their “record books” with good “grades”. A True Woman has dumped the book. Let oth­ers put check marks in appro­pri­ate fields: mar­ried — not mar­ried, nor­mal — not nor­mal, sin­gle — not sin­gle, like every­body else — not like every­body else. A True Woman has her own com­pass, she sets her own stan­dards. It doesn’t bother her that her stan­dards are not like every­body else’s. The mis­sion to gain appre­ci­a­tion of oth­ers is silly and impos­si­ble to accom­plish. A True Woman is always evolv­ing, but she doesn’t do it to gain love and appre­ci­a­tion of other peo­ple. She does it out of her love for herself.

6. A True Woman has out­grown her own “good girl”. A “good  girl” seeks approval of peo­ple around her, even when her own desires point the oppo­site way.  A “good girl” lives by the prin­ci­ple “I should” or “I shouldn’t”. She rarely asks her­self what she her­self wants. A True Woman does not feel the need to prove any­thing to anybody.

7. A True Woman does not fight with obsta­cles, she avoids them. She will never play a super­hero role. She knows that every obsta­cle has a weak spot or a bypass route. Instead of exer­cis­ing her power, she uses her flex­i­bil­ity. She knows that every sit­u­a­tion can have both a com­pli­cated and a sim­ple solu­tion. She chooses to seek the latter.

8. A True Woman does not col­lude with a drama of a life full of hard­ship. By look­ing at her you won’t be able to tell that she has to sur­vive — work 12 hours a day, get drained by her hus­band and kids. Even at stress­ful times she finds time to replen­ish her energy lev­els and she always looks great. She does not play the vic­tim role.

9. Soli­tude is a gift for a True Woman. She val­ues and loves her peri­ods of soli­tude, if she gets them. She is not in a hurry to pull ran­dom men into her life, just for the sake of not being alone. Being alone is a boon. Time of soli­tude is the best time to replen­ish her energy, fill her life with peace and depth. A True Woman is so much inter­ested in her own self, that she uses the moments of being on her own with great pleasure.

10. A True Woman always loves her age. She lives in her real age, accept­ing it and using all of its advan­tages. She doesn’t tell her­self sto­ries like “I’m too old for this” or “It’s too early for this”. A True Woman can allow her­self ANYTHING at ANY age. She uses her age 100%, not try­ing to be what she used to be like 20 years ago. At every age she can feel beau­ti­ful, sexy and charismatic.