1. A True Woman does not chase her happiness. A True Woman does not chase anything for that matter. Pursuit of happiness is the most popular and the most silly sport nowadays. A True Woman is not running anywhere — towards her bright future, into tomorrow, into the next year. She navigates through life always remaining in the present day. The present day is the most important and the most interesting thing for her. One day is one small life. A True Woman does have plans for the future, but she lives in the present, she doesn’t put off her life till tomorrow. She doesn’t wait for the right moment when her “real” life starts… (when she loses weight, when she meets Prince Charming, when some ideal circumstances will happen, etc.).
2. To be a True Woman is a big privilege. Allow yourself to claim this privilege. Only you can do it. The True Woman is in awe of her femininity. She sees tremendous value in the fact that she was born a woman. To be a woman is not a burden, nor it is a workout. It is a blessing. The True Woman cultivates her femininity on all levels: internally (feelings, sensations, emotions) and externally (her body, clothing and social interaction)
3. A True Woman lives at her own pace. Every one of us has her own natural rhythm of life. The rhythm of the big cities is too fast for her. She knows her own internal speed of life and she can set her whole life in accordance with it.
4. The most important person in a True Woman’s life is herself. She knows very well that it doesn’t mean being egoistical, cynical or hard-hearted. She just knows that underneath excessive desire to busy oneself with lives of others there is a fear of living one’s own life. A True Woman focuses on HER OWN life. But she is capable of supporting others and being part of their life as well. She does it because such is her sincere desire — not because she is afraid of disappointing others. She can say “NO”, if her heart says “NO”. She always listens to herself and she trusts her feelings.
5. A True Woman doesn’t care about what others think about her. Every woman was given a “public-opinion-record-book” when she was a little girl. This “book” was meant to be used with parents, teachers, neighbors, friends and colleagues. Many women devote their entire life to passing “exams” in order to fill their “record books” with good “grades”. A True Woman has dumped the book. Let others put check marks in appropriate fields: married — not married, normal — not normal, single — not single, like everybody else — not like everybody else. A True Woman has her own compass, she sets her own standards. It doesn’t bother her that her standards are not like everybody else’s. The mission to gain appreciation of others is silly and impossible to accomplish. A True Woman is always evolving, but she doesn’t do it to gain love and appreciation of other people. She does it out of her love for herself.
6. A True Woman has outgrown her own “good girl”. A “good girl” seeks approval of people around her, even when her own desires point the opposite way. A “good girl” lives by the principle “I should” or “I shouldn’t”. She rarely asks herself what she herself wants. A True Woman does not feel the need to prove anything to anybody.
7. A True Woman does not fight with obstacles, she avoids them. She will never play a superhero role. She knows that every obstacle has a weak spot or a bypass route. Instead of exercising her power, she uses her flexibility. She knows that every situation can have both a complicated and a simple solution. She chooses to seek the latter.
8. A True Woman does not collude with a drama of a life full of hardship. By looking at her you won’t be able to tell that she has to survive — work 12 hours a day, get drained by her husband and kids. Even at stressful times she finds time to replenish her energy levels and she always looks great. She does not play the victim role.
9. Solitude is a gift for a True Woman. She values and loves her periods of solitude, if she gets them. She is not in a hurry to pull random men into her life, just for the sake of not being alone. Being alone is a boon. Time of solitude is the best time to replenish her energy, fill her life with peace and depth. A True Woman is so much interested in her own self, that she uses the moments of being on her own with great pleasure.
10. A True Woman always loves her age. She lives in her real age, accepting it and using all of its advantages. She doesn’t tell herself stories like “I’m too old for this” or “It’s too early for this”. A True Woman can allow herself ANYTHING at ANY age. She uses her age 100%, not trying to be what she used to be like 20 years ago. At every age she can feel beautiful, sexy and charismatic.